“Wait, So Is This a romantic date?”: An innovative new Queer Podcast about Dating | Autostraddle

Introducing
“Hold Off, Is This A Night Out Together”
the podcast about queer matchmaking you won’t ever realized you always required, hosted by me, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast was created from Drew and that I’s common love of vocals memos and deep talks about matchmaking. We have been delivering each other sound memos for only over a-year today, going deeply from the circumstances received loves about internet dating (folks! fun! flirting!) plus the situations I dislike about matchmaking (People! Fun! Flirting!). We had been having a lot of enjoyment, considerate, and insightful conversations and frankly, it felt rude to deprive the more public ones!

Consider all of us as the friendly neighborhood co-hosts, leading you through extremely specific queer matchmaking conundrums because truthfully, right matchmaking podcasts could never. Conundrums like: how can you flirt via IG tales? How will you take long, drawn-out flirting one step further? So what does it mean to think people are into you? We are going to talk to some of Autostraddle’s best article writers, perform some extremely certain video games, document on all of our pop music tradition crushes of-the-moment and of course, just be sure to respond to the eternal question of your instances:

Wait…is this a date???

Tune in to the teaser below and whet urge for food, after which smash that “subscribe” button wherever good podcasts tend to be distributed, hence ensuring you a wonderful August 11th, whenever first formal episode falls!

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Drew:

Hi, I’m Drew.


Christina:

And I Also’m Christina. Referring to

Hold off, Is This a Date?

An Autostraddle podcast definitely aimed at the question, “Wait, is this a romantic date?”


Drew:

I’m therefore thrilled to discover.


Theme song plays


Christina:

Yeah. I think we’ve been on a trip to learn exactly what are times and exactly what are maybe not times, as pals, in addition to as a people, I believe.


Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Definition, the queers, the lesbians.


Christina:

Should we tell those queers and lesbians exactly what our whole indealment is, like that which we’re to contained in this minute?


Drew:

Like just who we’re?


Christina:

Yeah.


Drew:

Yeah. I could go initial. My name is Drew Gregory. I’m a filmmaker and an author for autostraddle.com, the internet site. I do most film and TV criticism, and intercourse and dating writing, and private essays, and items that combine all those circumstances. I’m trans and I am a lesbian, and I also feel just like I should include a third thing because everything is in threes. What otherwise? What otherwise?


Christina:

Circumstances do go on threes. You really have fantastic hair.


Drew:

Oh, many thanks.


Christina:

You have wonderful tresses, In my opinion that is really important.


Drew:

Those tend to be my personal identities. Trans. Lesbian. Fantastic hair.


Christina:

Those tend to be the identities.


Drew:

Yeah.


Christina:

I’ve usually said that you may be a lady of tresses experience. I’ve constantly said that in regards to you.


Drew:

Yeah. It’s really crucial.


Christina:

Yeah. I will be Christina Tucker. Im additionally an author at Autostraddle, if you’re able to accept is as true, whom writes about… oh, let us just state whatever pops into the mind. That is truly the vibe. Additionally a lesbian. I Am Black. I am not sure just who else I am.


Drew:

You might also need fantastic hair.


Christina:

Ok last one, no, I mean, i do believe this is possibly a podcast of locks knowledge. Possibly that ought to be all of our tagline, “a podcast of tresses knowledge.” I suppose the individuals are likely wanting to know how exactly we have got to this podcast particularly.


Drew:

Yes. And like every best part in life — and also by that What i’m saying is, really, hardly any — it began as a highdea, as a thing that we sent you in a sound memo, high. And returning beyond that, we started giving vocals memos to one another in the beginning of the pandemic.


Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I’m just planning show like emotions that I have, and after that you may go from that point and respond to me personally, perhaps not reply to myself, whatever. I’m just like, this might be me being immediate and obvious. Okay. I’m somebody who… I like making reference to online dating. Its certainly one of my main subjects of conversation. We have now stated my piece.


Christina, in a voice memo:

Thanks a lot for claiming your own part. In addition, six moments and 54 moments. Frankly, fairly amazing for you to get that call at that period of time. We hardly ever really think of dating. I think, maybe, an opposite feeling of both you and your want to consider online dating and talk about dating and, like, be online dating. In my opinion those are my personal views. Really, i am giving a Drew-level sound memo, a Drew-length voice memo now. I’m going to send this.


Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I know that you do not contemplate dating, definitely not just as much as myself, perhaps under anyone else I am aware?


Christina, in a voice memo:

I believe about dating significantly less than practically anyone I additionally know. I’m not sure. I truly don’t know if I’ve met anyone would youn’t think of dating as much as I do or as far as I don’t, i assume.


Drew:

We did not actually know each other. We were colleagues at Autostraddle, but also for folks that simply don’t understand, Autostraddle is actually an online office space. It is a lot more of a Slack scenario than a, each of us appear to like lesbian headquarters combined with briefcases. That’s not truly the feeling. We failed to truly know one another. Then, the beginning of pandemic, there clearly was some DM sliding and some relationship building several voice memoing. And now we would always joke it was like we had a podcast because we might deliver these lengthy sound memos. Immediately after which whenever I was actually stoned, I happened to be like, “We in fact should.” And here the audience is.


Christina:

Yeah. I am aware that which you mean by high a few ideas never getting ideal tips, but i really do have a tremendously clear recollection of hearing you claim that being like, “Yeah, however we should have a podcast. We have been performing for each and every different. Have you thought to invite others into it?”


Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Frequently my large tactics tend to be such things as, “Oh my personal God, there ought to be a TV program known as

Find Your Own Celebrity Dual,

in which you simply take a hollywood following they fulfill a person who — like a random individual who has actually their own exact same birth chart. Which also, is among my large some ideas that i do believe might be great. Its like…


Christina:

Yeah, first, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright.


Drew:

Which is a totally free one. I really don’t care.


Christina:

No, it’s not. Drew, I’m acquiring you money, I am going to be your cash manager regarding. Absolutely not.


Drew:

I just need to see these things in the world. Essentially, this is certainly a dating podcast, a queer matchmaking podcast. And something of the reasons exactly why really that topic, in lieu of numerous other things Christina and I also speak about, is mainly because i enjoy matchmaking and Christina doesn’t love dating which is an enjoyable small.


Christina:

Less of an admirer.


Drew:

And conflict is really… that is where crisis happens. I do believe Socrates mentioned that.


Christina:

Positively.


Drew:

And that’s why which is the subject. We will cover all sorts of things.


Christina:

Yeah. We will discuss all finest queer dating conundrums, online dating via Instagram.


Drew, in audio video from potential occurrence:

Correct me personally easily’m wrong, but In my opinion Instagram is the best queer matchmaking app.


Shelli, in sound video from potential occurrence:

A thousand percent. It is the greatest.


Christina, in sound clip from future occurrence:

I heard this from other queers.


Shelli, in audio video from future event:

Absolutely. It gives you literally everything you need, unless another person’s personal. But even though you’re private, infant, I’ll discover exactly about you, a way.


Drew, in sound clip from future episode:

We’re going to discuss the greatest intercourse we have now ever had.


Dani, in audio video from future episode:

Then I finally asked like, “No, did you run over right here to own intercourse? Tend to be we planning to make love?” Plus they happened to be like, “Yeah, that is what i needed.” Therefore was actually like, the cat therefore the dog were in room so there was actually cat and dog tresses every where. And I was actually like, absolutely having an allergic response although we had been having sex. The climax had been, like, cook’s hug. It actually was the most perfect experience.


Drew, in audio video from future episode:

Wow.


Christina, in sound video from potential episode:

I ponder if it is one thing in regards to the hives that actually added. Like a tiny bit ‘jenesequa’ compared to that orgasm experience. It had been like, “Ooh, i am only a little itchy also.” We ponder how much cash that elements. We’re discussing how exactly to split with others.


Ro, in audio video from potential event:

It feels as though a very direct lifestyle thing, also.


Christina, in sound clip from potential occurrence:

Yeah.


Ro, in audio clip from potential episode:

At the least in my experience, I feel like… My personal direct pals are the ones that prone to state, “Well, screw that person. See your face sucks,” basically finish a relationship with somebody. While, queer folks in my life are those that are very likely to keep relationships with exes or perhaps see our exes in a holistic way.


Christina, in audio video from potential occurrence:

Whatever you could think about in an internet dating podcast, and I’m not browsing lie to you personally folks, additionally a lot more. A lot more than you can actually ever contemplate.


Drew, in audio video from potential episode:

If you are sexting via book, could it possibly be like what you would like them… are you currently doing role-plays of a situation, like “you’re holding me personally now” or “If only you’re coming in contact with,” just what tight tend to be we in?


Kayla, in sound video from potential event:

Yeah, I was attending ask equivalent question, really, because that’s something that’s constantly fascinating for me, especially because many of us are article writers, also.


Christina, in audio video from future episode:

I happened to be probably say, a small grouping of article authors like, “What tight are we working?”


Kayla, in sound clip from potential occurrence:

Viewpoint.


Christina, in sound clip from potential event:

It’s an in depth next, what exactly is happening here?


Kayla, in sound video from future event:

Like, purely next?


Drew:

Listed here is the fact about queer individuals. Without a doubt.


Christina:

Okay. Pull-up a chair. Welcome to the TED Talk. Let’s set off.


Drew:

We now have plenty encounters and are much more interesting. Merely as I consider the manner in which right folks explore online dating, it really is so monotonous. And I also think so often, queer relationship discussions tend to be extensions of conventional dating discussion, but including things such as “developing” and “first-time you are with a blah, blah, blah.” Its like — absolutely a lot more nuance in books… Its very exciting. Exactly what a global that it is, queer gender and queer matchmaking.


Christina:

We’ve used such as the extremely traditional sort of monotonous design of heterosexual relationship and really delivered it into a unique globe, full of lengthy talks and running our feelings. It’s wonderful work.


Drew:

Yeah. I am truly thrilled and I also hope you-all tend to be excited, because our basic event comes out weekly from these days right after which, there will end up being new periods every Wednesday.


Christina:

It has been one week before you’ll hear the podcast. Nailed it. Broken it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you won’t merely get

To L and Back

on Mondays, you’ll get

Hold Off, Is It A Date?

on Wednesdays.


Drew:

And that I co-host both, if you dislike me personally, i assume you’re not enjoying Autostraddle podcasts. If in case you do like me, you are welcome.


Christina:

Also, unless you like Drew, develop, is what I have to state.


Drew:

I’m not for everyone, I’m ok thereupon. In my opinion it’s probably best that you not for everyone.


Christina:

Certain. I think which is completely fair. And possibly an interest we’re able to discuss using one of our potential attacks. What the results are if you are not for all of us? I loved that I moved like, “Ooh, let us get this all inclusive.” What will happen once you, we, as individuals. You said, why don’t we carry out an entire event about, “Can you imagine I’m not for all of us?”


Drew:

Well, it really is Leo season and I also’m a Leo rising and that I decided making it about myself personally. 00:09:54].


Christina:

As am I. Thanks a lot considerably.


Drew:

We have been double Leo risings on this podcast, and that is element of the reason why it will be brilliant. You’ll be able to pay attention to all of us anywhere you hear your podcast. It’s going to be a pretty regular podcast circumstance. Nothing extravagant, no riddles would have to be solved to find the occurrence, it’s going to be right there for your needs.


Christina:

Not the boss people. There’s lots of choices, carry out what you will really.


Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, available you on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And email us at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And you may discover myself on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my title in the present tight.


Christina:

You will find considered your social media addresses several times and I have not, until this moment, understood it is “draw.” Wow.


Drew:

Yeah. Well that’s the thing, Drew was used and I do not know how… Oh, I happened to be matchmaking some one that… Actually this person just who we dated, i did not get a whole lot of that union, except I stated this idea and she thought it actually was very amusing, like also funny, truly, like a portion of the issue, I think maybe. And that I ended up being encouraged to exercise, and then it is simply trapped.


Christina:

Wow.


Drew:

But yeah. Occasionally folks believe i am an aesthetic musician and you understand what, I love to be looked at in that way, but i cannot, I do not genuinely have drawing abilities.


Christina:

I will say you’ll find nothing more on brand name for Drew than becoming want, “Oh, that’s the Twitter handle.” And you also getting love, “really, it really is a funny story about internet dating.”


Drew:

Yes, exactly.


Christina:

Great.

try this


Drew:

What exactly are individual manages, and are usually they connected to your romantic existence?


Christina:

Simply, no. You’ll find myself at @c_gracet on twitter.com, the web site. Just in case you want to find me on Instagram, can help you therefore, at @christina_gracet. And it’s really actually fearless of me to understand my very own Instagram handle.


Drew:

Wonderful work.


Christina:

Many thanks so much.


Drew:

It is usually a delight to speak with both you and i am thus thrilled to plunge into all these interesting subject areas. And also for the listeners to reach know all of us somewhat much better and obtain to… i believe we could all, In my opinion we are all going to learn on this quest.


Christina:

I hope very. I enrolled in understanding.


Drew:

Yeah.


Christina:

Like an university course of podcasts. That caused it to be appear to be a total bummer. So sorry.


Drew:

I am not sure. I had some really great college courses.


Christina:

Demonstrably, Used To Do also, but I don’t need to make anyone—


Drew:

Can you picture exactly how amazing it will be any time you showed up to your school course and either folks was your professor, or we educated a class with each other, that’d end up being the hottest thing actually. Individuals might possibly be like…


Christina:

Hottest ticket in the city. Enrollment is actually off of the chart.


Drew:

Oh, we ought to have an occurrence which is focused on hot teachers. That isn’t related.


Christina:

That’s not not pertinent. I’ll say that.


Drew:

Sure, sure. Personally I think like there may be — you should make it somewhat broader, but who knows? Who knows just what will be in tomorrow, and that is really exciting. While know who will know? You, listener, whenever you stay tuned every Wednesday.


Christina:

You stay tuned and you crucially hit that old subscribe switch and you will spend time with our company every Wednesday and get yourself, “something a date?”


Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That brings myself to… I am not sure. I found myself merely questioning… was actually this a romantic date?


Christina:

Drew, no. This is exactly a podcast truck.


Drew:

Oh, cool. Okay. Great. Okay. I believe I’m acquiring the hang of it while know what’s great, is the fact that because I inquired, now I’m sure, and from now on directly in interaction is actually what it’s exactly about.


Christina:

Asked and answered. The CT motto.


Drew:

And another that many folks in our very own community could learn. And in addition we’re going to, ideally, this is actually a service. This will be less of a podcast plus of a political act.


Christina:

Wow. I found myselfn’t conscious of that, but I’m delighted to understand that we’re having both a podcast and a political act. Two of my favorite circumstances. Two of my personal favorite things to start with P, podcasts and governmental acts.


Theme song plays.


Christina, in a voice memo:

I believe my personal instinct is if I like one and I also want them within my existence, i am aware the most effective way for my situation to keep them in my own every day life is to make them a pal.


Drew, in a voice memo:

I am just very happy that individuals’ve come to be such close friends. Incase off quarantine, that is what happened, I made this amazing brand-new pal, just who I adore dearly and I’m merely thrilled to speak with you usually, like just what a present.


Christina, in a voice memo:

Dammit. I got an idea therefore moved out. It actually was honestly probably actually brilliant.



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